Who Are You?

Who are you? What permission are you waiting for to become the person that you were meant to be?

I listened to Tony Robbins’ podcast “Recover Your True Self” with Russell Brand and this quote in particular stood out to me. There was once a time when I tried to live a life that was comfortable for other’s and their expectations of me and I found myself extremely unhappy and unhealthy. 

I was working a job that I tricked myself into being excited about, I was engaging in activities that suited the image that was expected of me and I was even pursuing relationships that would be “appropriate” or acceptable based on other’s ideas on who I should be.

Who was I? Who was I really underneath all of the facades and boxes others had set up that I gladly jumped into? The question of who I am is one that I still seek to answer but not in the same confused way I used to ponder some years ago when I was seeking permission to really be me.

So often in life we work jobs we hate because its comfortable for the image we want to portray to society and/or our friends/family. So often we suppress our dreams and visions because we long for validation from others that its ok to dream in a way that differs from theirs. We stay in relationships that don’t fulfill us or our hearts because we search for answers outside of the only place they can be found; inside of ourselves.

I had a vision of who I wanted to be since I was a little girl. Sounds crazy, I know but I’ve always had an idea of what I wanted to be and where I wanted my life to go. Over the years I dug deep inside myself to find courage to dream and follow said dreams regardless of the disapproval of others. Coming from the background I do, there were a lot of nay sayers and people who tried to tell me I needed permission to become the person I wanted to. This of course can be scary especially if you are operating from a place where theres a roadmap laid out for you long before you are even aware enough of what it is that you want. The sooner I rebelled against the fear aspects, I stopped seeking permission and in the midst of people being removed from the journey, I found myself and true happiness. It lead me to be in a fulfilling relationship and to remove any imaginary boundaries I had been placing on myself all these years.

So on this second day of the new year, I encourage anyone reading this to a) realize you don’t need anyone’s permission or validation to be who you know you’re meant to be. b) Take some solo time and discover who you really are without all the noise from the outside. c) be fearless in your pursuit of discovering your why and going towards it.

They say life is short but I don’t know if I’ve ever truly believed that. I believe life and its experiences are mostly what we make it and the rest how we respond to whats happening around us. Oh and d) Listen to this amazing podcast! You won’t regret it.